One of the things we’re working on here, is something we’ve named the Dashboard Report

It’s a summary of all the different categories we need to think about and keep track of, with a summary of current status, in a table format. But the best part, is that each line item on each table, has an “indicator color” as the first column in the table – either Green, Yellow or Red. So we can scan down the report, know that “green” means everything is clicking along well in that particular category, or yellow for something isn’t what it should be, or red for “this is a distinct problem we need to deal with ASAP.” We’ve just started using it, after a very long and tiresome series of arguments where I’d complain that this-or-that is in bad shape, DH would complain he never knows what’s going on, and we’d both lose track of priorities. There’s still a certain amount of room for disagreement over whether something should be yellow vs red or green vs yellow. But neither of us can claim to be surprised by some unknown issue that fell through the cracks anymore. As a plus, we get to see changes over the months, as things move from red to yellow, or yellow to green. And we get to see instant gratification for all the green line items. It has been an experimental way to communicate a heckuva lot of info, but so far it’s working pretty well. I’ll post it to Files if anyone else is interested.

I’m running into many that want a specific number

One lady said something like, “It doesn’t do any good to submit you for the job if
you’re looking to get $60K and the position only pays $30K.” I had another headhunter tell me that if my minimum acceptable salary was a
certain number, he didn’t want to waste my time or the potential company by trying to match me up to a job where the salary was $20K
less than that. I also saw an application last week for a company that even STATED, “Open, negotiable, or DOE is NOT an acceptable answer.”

I don’t know how you are negotiating

but honestly in my opinion your past salary is irrelevant; you should just put “negotiable” on the
application and if they ask — give a range not your specific salary; Most managers have a pay band based on experience and qualifications so that’s what they are looking to balance against. We were told by our corporate HR team that it’s not illegal to ask for a pay
stub but it’s extremely unusual… in this case the winning company bid salaries at 60% the current rate. So if I made $100K I would be offered $60K because it’s a firm fixed price (no room for negotiation). Bottom line, when interviewing I suggest giving a range of perhaps your current salary to $15 more which gives you negotiating room to get to the middle if all goes well.

oops! just meant to add

it’s nice to have someone give you a reality check and let you know that all is not doom and gloom, but there are some wonderful pluses to your life that you just might not be seeing at the moment. you guys are doing a fantastic job. life’s good…now, if you can just come up with that extra land payment money, life will be fantastic! (big grin from me here)

Soon enough, but we need another 12 degrees or so

You can still make snow at 28 degrees, but that’s tops. I’ve been great at shoveling snow all day but now we have a gigantic pile in front of our front door from what’s fallen off from the metal roof. It falls in sheets and sounds like an avalanche as it happens. I think I’m done being macho for the day. I’m going to let my poor dh shovel the big clumps of ice when he comes home from work.We have a long dirt driveway at the end of a long dirt road. The water can get so high and muddy, we actually have to put boards down to walk up to the house just so we don’t get soaked and filthy. Mud is not my friend. Fortunately, we’re still snow and ice. I’m ok with that, come April, I’ll not be in such a great mood because everything will be a big, old mess, and I’ll be the Swiffer Queen trying to stay on top of it.

I’m finding that even my previous salary

is pricing me out of 95% of the few jobs I’ve gotten calls on. The HR people have even mentioned
that on occasion. It’s kinda difficult when the job in question only pays 60-65% of what I was making before. If I added on the total
compensation, I probably wouldn’t have gotten ANY interviews.

I work for a multinational company of over 90K employees

; in my particular office 85% have been with the company 5-10 years so we have longevity. I say this as background. We lost our contract to a small business, veteran, woman, minority, diabled,you name, they have the tag line for it company.Given that 85% of my office hasn’t had to look for work or interview in 5-10 years they are not savvy as to how to negotiate and mainly just want to know they will continue to get a paycheck — don’t really care who it’s from.
Case in point, the company who won our contract demanded two paystubs when we interviewed. I don’t know about you but I have NEVER been asked to provide a paystub… again, 99% of my office printed out their paystubs with all their deductions, personnel numbers, bank routing number, etc… when truth be told, all they needed to provide was their net income (with all other information blanked out — that’s what I did).As for me, I kept on top of my “total” compensation over the years so I knew my “worth” in terms of what I was being paid and what the company was contributing to my paycheck… trust me, I was self talking for six weeks to ensure I was able to say what my income was with a straight face.As for my coworker, he is black and white and no shades of grey so they offered him the same salary that I am going to make (he is taking a pay cut while I get an increase); but in the bigger scheme of things we have jobs and that’s what matters. Hope this all makes sense. 😮

I think though my biggest problem

is when I get like this I immediately shut down…. and sit… instead of baking some bread or finishing one of the umteen thousand craft projects, or sorting coupons, or writing letters…. I just sort of become paralyzed… and I get angry with myself cause goodness… its not the end of the world… certainly not… but the perfectionist in me looks at it as a failure…
Maybe I need therapy… except that would cost money LOL

I believe I told you that you were brilliant in your negotiations

Brilliant. As for the teleworking, it’s what I do. I work around my family’s schedule and it suits us beautifully. I have a 401k, I provide the family’s health insurance, and I love what I do. When we have a bluebird day (meaning sunshine and a blue sky), I can sneak over to the ski resort and get a little “me” time in before I have to get my children from school and get dinner going, etc. My job is such that I can continue working once my children are in bed. It’s the best of all worlds.
I know what I was speaking of when I told you to enjoy those evenings of peace and quiet. My husband often travels with one of his jobs. He then works nights often at this time of the year when he’s home. We never have evening dates any more; it just doesn’t work with our schedules. He was feeling guilty that he gets a night to escape while he’s on the road but I’m still here doing the mom thing. He booked some spa treatments for me one afternoon and sent me to the same resort for an evening of room service and peace and quiet. It was glorious. I’m guessing it will be a treat for you as well. Your children will have a good time with their daddy, your husband will have fun with the kids, and you’ll get a mini vacation with meals cooked and cleaned up by someone else. Not bad!

I am laughing a bit because I am traveling with a coworker of mine

than I’ve known for ten years now (longer than my current DH!) and he was of the mindset to go in a day and come back but I was like, what?! At least give me ONE night of peace and quiet from the family! lol. Turns out it will be three days (bliss!). I feel a little guilty but not really. 🙂
My DH is very good at childcare so I know he will be OK and if the kids’schedule gets messed up, well so be it for a few days. They will be fine.I think I posted a few days ago my strategy for getting a pay raise — my point of contact (and future manager) asked me my current salary and what were my expectations. I gave my last recollection of my corporation’s statement of my “personal benefits” — meaning what I am paid in addition to the healthcare, retirement, pension, etc. that they pay; which equalled about $15K more than my current take home. So that was the number I gave “my current compensation is xyz” and no one blinked.As an aside the coworker I am traveling with gave them his “take home” pay to which the new company countered that he would be getting the same, take it or leave it. So he has equalized while I have gained. 🙂
Sorry all, we got a bit off track from budgeting here. Let me just say now that I am teleworking I will be saving in gas, time, dry cleaning costs,lunch, etc. and so forth; and the additonal compensation will allow me to start funding a home improvement account as well as savings accounts for the kids (DD is almost 3 and DS turned 1 last week).We are debt free except the house which is undewater but eventually I plan to try to refinance — just need to get my mental house in order!